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Hospitality of the Table – He Prepares A Table Before Me

June 7, 2013

He Prepares A Table

Do you set the table for meals?  Do you all sit down together with tablecloth, cutlery, perhaps candles?

If you’re a busy mom of little ones you might be thinking, “What would be the point?!”  Some days it feels like more than enough just to get them all fed.

But there is something really important–Divine, in fact–about preparing a table.  Sitting in a session with Nancy Campbell at a conference she asked the question, “Where did tables come from?  Where did tables originate?”  The room was silent.  There were various suggestions, but finally she gave us the answer: TABLES ORIGINATED IN HEAVEN.  Before we ever had tables on earth, God had them in heaven.  What a cool thought is that: God has a table!  A table where we are invited to sit and feast!  (Matthew 8:11, Luke 13:29, Luke 22:29-30, Revelation 19:9)

Tables just don’t happen.  A table must be prepared.  Psalms 23:5:You prepare a table before me…”  Preparing a table is something that God does!  Who knew?!  When I set out the plates, napkins, glasses and cutlery, I am doing something that God does!  When I set bowls of steaming food and platters of fruit on the table for my children, I am mirroring something the Holy One does for His!  That is AMAZING!  That is a completely beautiful perspective!

What does it communicate to our family, friends, neighbors, (whoever we invite to our table) that our table is prepared?  Pastor and Chef Francis Foucachon writes in his book, Food For Thought and Thoughtful Food, “The ritual of regular sit-down meals communicates a sense of self-worth, especially for children. They sense that they are important enough for someone to take time, day after day, to schedule this event around their needs.  The fixed part of a day when a real sit-down meal takes place gives all family members a sense of security, because it means that there is always something in the day that they can count on as being the same.  The structure of having meals together brings a framework that family members can hang on to when things get tough….For a loving family, the dining table is a refuge where life is not hard or harsh….The sustenance and renewal and fellowship found around the table help you to confront trials and challenges with trust in the Lord and with strength.”

Hospitality of the Table

It’s not over-stating things a bit to say that the most important piece of furniture in the home is the table.  The table is the CENTER of the home, the CENTER of blessings.  Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table. Yes, this will be the blessing for the man who fears the LORD.”  Psalms 128:3-4

“You feed them with blessings from your own table and let them drink from your rivers of delight.” Psalms 36:7-8

In fact, a meal at a table is central to our faith–beginning with the Passover, continuing on to the Tabernacle and eventually in the Eucharist.  It is a symbol of faith, nourishment, acceptance, hospitality.

“In the ancient world (the one Jesus was born into), people saw the sharing of meals as having eternal consequences.  If you ate meals with the right kind of people, paradise waited for you.  If you ate with the wrong kind of people…well, you get it.  Jesus challenged this organizing principle of his culture.  Understanding how the culture viewed having the “right” dinner companions shines a whole new light on the old story of feeding the five thousand.  People marvel at a little bit of food feeding a whole bunch of people and miss a whole other point.  Jesus wanted them to EAT together.  If they did this, it would change everything, they would be joining the revolution.” (Radical Hospitality, St. Benedicts Way of Love by Father Daniel Homan and Lonni Collins Pratt)

Preparing a table means we make space for another.  It’s intentional.  If every meal has the potential to reveal God in Creation (because preparing a table and sharing a meal is something the Bible tells us that God does!), then the table has a deep, a sacramental, meaning.

“Setting a table and making ready for a meal involves preliminary thought and consideration for others.  To do it right you have to think through your guest’s preferences and history; you need to know if they have allergies or chronic illnesses.  If you invite more than one guest, you must consider which of them would enjoy sitting together and how they might relate.  Preparing for another pulls us out of ourselves–that is one of the good gifts of hospitality.”  (Radical Hospitality)

Hospitality of the Table

Hospitality, including as it applies to sitting together at a table is foundational to living a truly Christian life.  St. Benedict, when establishing his monasteries, insisted that hospitality of fellow monks and strangers not be overlooked.  In the Rule of St. Benedict he wrote: “anticipate one another in honor; most patiently endure one another’s infirmities, whether of body or of character…” (#72) and “Let the Abbess’s table always be with the guests and the pilgrims. But when there are no guests, let it be in her power to invite whom she will of the sisters.” (#56)

Let’s be practical. How can we work this understanding into our daily lives?  In the hectic pace of our lives and juggling everyone’s schedules, how can we manifest the Lord’s table at our table?

1. Do not let your table be overtaken by other things for any long period of time.  Especially as homeschooling families, this takes being intentional!  Our table is constantly covered by art projects, math papers, laundry half-folded, etc.  Oh, it’s just life.  But, make it a part of your daily rhythm to clear it off and start fresh before each meal.  Children can be taught to gather up their things in anticipation of dinner.  In fact, this is a really helpful daily ritual for them, as they learn to take responsibility for their own things.  As parents we are guilty of this, too.  The table can be spread with bills or paperwork and old coffee cups.  Take a few minutes to put everything to rights before meal time.

2. Have everything you need on hand.  If you don’t have table cloths and napkins, begin your collection.  You can often pick these up at thrift store or garage sales.  Sometimes even a re-purposed sheet works great!  There is something about having a table covered, that sets meal time apart from school and work time.  We have used tablecloths and cloth napkins all our lives.  It really does not add much to the wash load at all and saves a lot of money not buying disposables.  You can also pat yourself on the back that you are not adding to the landfill!  (Do we need to say that even children should be using real plates and cups and not paper or Styrofoam???  Seriously.  Seriously.)

3. Before I begin to prepare dinner, I light a candle in the kitchen and later transfer it to the table.  It’s a small thing.  It takes just a moment.  But, it signifies a change in pace.  It’s a moment where I give thanks for having more than enough to eat.  It’s a moment where I ask for God’s blessing on my preparations.  It’s a little holy moment.  (Plus when the family sees it lit they can stop asking when they can expect dinner!  The candle is lit = food is on the way.  So be patient.)

4. Teach the children how to set the table.  It needn’t be elaborate every night, but it should be done properly.  Meaning, forks on the correct side of the plate, glasses on the correct side of the plate, etc.

5. Don’t just plop the condiment jars and bottles on the table.  Take a moment to put the jam, ketchup, mayo, etc.  in a small bowls with a spoon.  Butter on a butter dish or plate.

6. Add an adornment to your table, such as a vase of flowers.  Children love to have the responsibility of making a table pretty.  So let them!  Just a few clippings of flowers or herbs from the yard are fine.

7. Unplug.  Don’t allow technology to encroach on your meal times.  Don’t let family members bring their phones to the table.  Switch off the television and turn down the ringer on the home phone.  Let the world continue spinning without your monitoring it.  Take a moment to appreciate a table prepared before you.

380349_409266319095861_341842902504870_1244085_262997218_nAt first all this may seem terribly complicated and you may be tempted to revert to plopping the bag of bread and the jar of peanut butter on the table.  Persevere, dear sister!  In time, preparing a table will become part of your daily routine.  Sitting down together and saying grace will become a favorite moment of the day for everyone in the family.  Everyone will begin to look forward to it, to count on it, to save their best stories and jokes for meal time.  You will have time to look at one another and accept one another.  And as it becomes a natural part of your life, you will feel more and more comfortable with inviting others outside your family to join you.  You’ll begin, perhaps, with friends you’ve been meaning to have over.  And soon you’ll extend it to people you pass in church and the Lord has been prompting you to reach out to them.  From there you might invite neighbors and work colleagues. Eventually you’ll be comfortable to invite the stranger–the one you don’t even know–to your table.  And one day, you may entertain those angels unaware.  It all starts with PREPARING A TABLE.

“Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it.”  Hebrews 13:2

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16 Comments leave one →
  1. Donna Godfrey permalink
    June 7, 2013 11:42 am

    You are so correct! I decided that my good china is not just for guests but for my family too. I had a set of nice goblets that I set at our family table sometimes so the kids learned how to drink from it when we went away or to a nice place for a meal. I wanted them to come to the table clean and that helped them to use their quiet voices at the table. There are quite a few table manners I taught the kids so they would be comfortable in formal situations.
    As I watched them grow up I saw they were ready to face any situation that happened around a table. Now I am watching them teach their children the same manners and I am pleased and thankful I took the time to equip them as adults.

    • June 9, 2013 1:30 pm

      My mom always uses her china and stemware for the family, too. Made us feel so special!

  2. June 7, 2013 2:16 pm

    Daja thank you for reminding me of this. As my children have grown up and only two of the five remain at home, life has gotten BUSY! Oftentimes we are eating at different times and in different rooms. It is unsatisfying to me and I am purposing to eat at least two meals each week together with those family members who are home when I make the meal.

  3. sue permalink
    June 9, 2013 1:05 pm

    This is wonderful!! Thank you for this great reminder, and so timely with Father’s Day coming this weekend!! We just loved your blog and we’re so glad to have you join us at our One Sharendipity Place Link-up Party this past weekend!!
    Thanks again & God bless,
    Sue @

    • June 9, 2013 1:29 pm

      Thank you so much! What an encouragement you are! 🙂

  4. June 10, 2013 4:46 am

    We love this post. It reminds us that it is not just the food on the table, but the rest of the table is important also.
    Have a wonderful week.
    Debi and Charly

  5. June 10, 2013 10:16 am

    Looks beautiful. Thank you for sharing with Foodie Friends Friday!

  6. June 11, 2013 6:13 am

    Just beautiful. Would of love to been there. stopping by from Kathy’s

  7. June 11, 2013 4:44 pm

    Just wanted you to know that we loved this post and are going to be featuring it this weekend at ONE Sharendipity PL.
    Have a great week!

  8. June 12, 2013 3:01 am

    I love when I meet someone who still thinks it normal to use your good china or dishes! I enjoyed your post this morning! I am a new from southern charm! I would love for you to check out my blog and hopefully follow me back! Nicole

  9. June 13, 2013 12:00 am

    You’re right on & I’m with you. A lovely table is the norm at my home. And my husband loves it and loves to tell people that a nicely set dinner table is a daily normal at our house. Yay! Someone notices. Thanks for your post and tips.

    Lori @ A Bright and Beautiful Life


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